“It’s not life that matters, but the courage that we bring to it.”
It often takes a lot of courage for anyone to acknowledge that they need help for emotional difficulties. Having the courage to examine the parts of ourselves that we are ashamed to even look at is what helps us grow. In order to examine all of ourselves, we need to have compassion for the parts of ourselves that we don’t like.
Compassion, empathy and loving kindness are the cornerstones of my treatment plan for each patient. I collaborate with my patients to develop and implement treatment plans that are highly individualized to each patient’s needs and include an appropriate modality of psychotherapy in combination with recommendations for nutrition, exercise, as well as medication and/or TMS if necessary. Forming a partnership with each patient (and including their family if necessary) is an essential element of any treatment plan. To quote Pema Chödrön, one of my spiritual gurus:
“Compassion is not a relationship between the healer and the wounded. It’s a relationship between equals. Only when we know our own darkness well can we be present with the darkness of others. Compassion becomes real when we recognize our shared humanity.”